A new kind of dialogue. A dialogue for peace. A dialogue for meaning and understanding. A dialogue for thinking together. An exposition of dialogue group and dialogue practice. This is an ongoing blog with posts added often. The blog is searchable in several ways. This blog is meant to be an interactive experience.
Thursday, June 8, 2023
Learn to Organize as you Organize to Learn
Wednesday, March 1, 2023
Group Dialogue Practice: hints for creating successful group practice
This whole blog is much about group dialogue practice and this is more on that same theme. Dialogue of this sort is often called social dialogue. Social dialogue has been called a pillar of social resiliance and cohesion. It makes our co-operation more powerfully effective. It may be that which makes human and humane co-operation possible. Using language is a marvel of humanity. By the time you have read a dozen of these little essays, you will have provided yourself the ability to recognize a successful dialogue group and know much of the reasons why it is successful.
Hints:
~In the very beginning it helps to have at least 6 or 7 interested persons committed to three or four consecutive meetings. This could be called your pilot group. Forty practicants is too many for most well working groups.
~ During practice one person addresses the group as a whole and avoids directing her words to only a few persons at a time.
~ The practice is mostly a listening practice with one person speaking and the rest listening. Even so, all intened to make sure that every one has an equal opportunity to speak.
~ Remember that the speaker is most likely doing his best to be honest and to make his words understood.
~ Avoid interrupting another. You will have your chance to speak and other times to listen. The dialogue continues so that there is more oppertunity to understand and to be understood. If a speaker is interrupted several listeners may be interrupted and so the effectiveness of the practice may be damaged.
~ Keep expenses to a minimum. Everyone helps take care of necessary expenses, Do your part as you are able to.
~ Listen well to that which the speaker is saying. Improved understanding is an aimof your group.
~ Practice listening wel and gain more powerful listening and understanding skills.
~ Encourage each and every one to use their opportunity to say something at each meeting. Their words and yours are gifts to each of us.
~ Usually limit speaking to one or two minutes. It is great to have time to speak more than once at a meeting.
~ Rememvber that focusing dialogue on the topic and on personal experience is good practice.
The hints offered here can be useful for keeping the practice pleasant and effective, but are far from all inclusive or comprehensive. There is much more offered in other posts on this blog. Consider beginning a practice group of your own, if you have not already done so.
Thank you for your visit and for reading.
rcs
Saturday, February 18, 2023
Social Dialogue
This social dialogue for dealing with work and worker related doings for mutual understanding and more specifically for collective bargaining is not specifically our type of dialogue, but it uses and benefits from many of the skills we develop. This video is a production of the European International Labor Organization.
Thank you for your visit. Please continue to explore this blog site.
rcs
Saturday, February 11, 2023
This Practice is old and it is New, It's Powerful Too
The Practice of Dialogue
Dialogue including: A bit of a definition of our usefully different kind of dialogue. You may have heard or read information before. Read it again here and make sure that it is active in your memory. It is important that you do so. You will benefit.
I write about a new kind of dialogue. It is mostly for groups of as small as 9 to groups of about 39.
Below are some descriptive notes about what is, and what it is not. See other posts on the benefits of this more productive and satisfying way to communicate. It can work wonders with your husband and has been successful in some very large groups.
Our dialogue practice is not a:
~ place to make a particular point prevail.
~ debate or even a discussion.
~ time to attempt to make points.
~ game to win or lose.
This new dialogue practice is a way to:
~ meaning and understanding.
~ an activity which helps us to be us.
~ through the meaning of word.
~ an honest, supportive activity.
~ greater awareness and enhanced consciousness.
~ hone your listening skills.
~ develop new speaking skills.
~ effective methods of communication.
~ cultural preservation and creation.
~ make a healthy, effective society more probable.
~ meet interested people in an interesting environment.
~ put honest thoughts "on the table" where we can look at them and begin to find their meaning.
~ be heard.
~ find pleasure in speaking-up.
~ understanding among us and within us.
~ satisfying relationship.
~ exchange idea and opinion more safely.
~ share experience.
~ more effective communication beyond the group.
~ practice a "second" language.
~ peace and good will.
~ to see our words as gifts.
According to Dr. David Bohm a similar dialogue practice is:
~ participating in a flow of meaning between us, through us, and among us.
~ an activity out of which emerges new and renewed understanding.
~ an activity which helps us to be an us.
Could you find a way to practice a dialogue of this sort? Could you practice a dialogue more of this sort in your group?
You can open a window below to make a comment, a suggestion, and ask a question. You might have to click on where where "no comment" is printed below.
Thanks for reading.
RCS
Sunday, February 5, 2023
Comments
We still have a working comments app present just below each essay and post. Try it, you may really like it! You can use your real name, a pen, a war name, a nickname. You may find that doing so can be more satisfying than posting your comment anonymously. Of course you can comment anonymously whenever you desire.
My name is Richard, or more completely Richard Sheehan, but I most often sign my posts and comment responses, rcs.
rcs
Friday, February 3, 2023
Space and Time for a Dialogue Practice Group
You can find space and time to let more meaning and understanding into your life. Dialogue practice can be a way to meaning, understanding, and more. You can find space and time to bring dialogue practice into your life. This blog deals with a kind of dialogue practice which you may find interesting and and more useful than you may imagine just now. This post deals with the nature of effective dialogue and its practice.
I have found that the practice works best face to face in a group. Such a dialogue practice group calls for a designate space and time. The best space or place is often quiet and private. The best time is often a bit more than an hour at a time about once a week. The time a place is for the benefit of group members ought to satisfy them. Practice groups are best when open to a wide variety of participants. Groups are open, but the number of participants is best limited to less than 40 members. Also it is best when membership is 17 or more; however, successful groups have begun with fewer.
Group practice takes time a commitment. It be best done once a week for about an hour or two persession. This is best done forever, but few of us live that long. By using the hints and suggestions found here you can give your group a good chance for successful operation bringing powerful to skills to your members. With love, even a couple can benefit from the skills learned.
Again, time for your practice is important. A good goal to aim for might be to find a time good for 20 individuals to meet once a week for an hour and a half each session. A good aim might be to meet for 40 weeks each year.
Among the first steps an individual might take is to decide how she intends to show up for group practice. Another step is to actually show up. A great third step could be to arrange to attend complete practice meetings each week for the next couple of months.
As she continues her weekly practice sessions she may observe her dialogue companions becoming more effective listeners and more cogent speakers. She could see here companions speaking up, so as to be more successfully heard. She may also come to other members listening more attentively to a member speaking to the group. She might see her good friend in the group honestly express an opinion or describe and experience she has had. She will see fellow dialoguers developing and using new dialogue skills and and attitudes, before she herself becomes aware of her development.
With your help we can continue to review the benefits of our dialogue practice. I have read of independent groups practicing this kind of dialogue for a variety of reasons, including the belief that it maintains, strengthens, and creates culture! I have begun to mention a few of the benefits in this essay. Examples are that it can: bring more meaning and understanding to our lives, improve listening and speaking skills, underline the value of showing up, provide opportunity to observe a variety of speakers and listeners, give you the chance to be listened to, and we may discover more.
When your interest in this dialogue grows you can try to find a an active group near you. Or, if you know a couple of others who share your interest, you could form your own practice group. When you begin actual practice please feel free to report your experience by clicking on "comments" below. Also know that you are free to ask questions or to make comments whenever you wish.
Some simple doings have proven helpful. For example, it seems best to form a circle with chairs facing toward the center and so offering participants a good view of one another. In that circle one often begins to see that participants begin to look less and less to a designated authority and that they avoid building a hierarchy. In such a circle they experience getting to know in a way perhaps new to them.
Participants in their own circle begin to want the words spoken there to be honest. They may even to see those words as gifts. The find that their words are listened to attentively and sometimes truly accepted as gifts. Participants share words and begin to find more meaning in that which is said.
Benefits of the dialogue are gained through practice. There are many ways to practice. Participants in the practice find that there rules(some correctly call them ways)which they learn, most of them are simple and important. They find that their are helpful suggestions available for making the practice more effective and more pleasant. Participants find that a significant number of those rules and suggestions are not completely new to them.
Most practice is easy to do and easy to understand; even so, ongoing practice is important to making them yours. Some of the steps we take may seem very simple, but they lead to good effects and your group will benefit from them. It may not seem like a step, but an example is the practice of appropriate respect and courtesy.
Dialogue practice groups are usually open, but seldom public. Open means that nearly anyone can participate when their are chairs are available. When there are more than about forty individuals who want to participate it is best to consider starting a new group. (When you are interested in discussing this further you may use the comments section below). Seldom public, means that there are usually no observers; when practic begins doors are closed. A dialogue group is not a public forum. A public forum can be, among other things, a wonderful communication container. We can benefit from having and using public forums as we can from dialogue practice groups. However, our practice groups are for teaching our self a different and perhaps higher kind of communication.
A dialogue practice group has ways, means, and aims different from those of public forums. Our ways include practice and democratic inclusion, our main means is our ongoing practice, our aims include bringing more meaning and understanding into our lives and achieving a better understanding of the assumptions and opinions of others. Participants are not interested in bringing others to their point of view. They are more interested in understanding the points of view of others. Some aim to better understand the power of thinking together. Nearly all find that they are listened to more closely than ever.
You can explore this dialogue practice more by reading other posts on this blog and by communication with us by way of the "comments" app just below this posts. You may find that you can enjoy enhanced meaning and understanding in your life and at the same time engender a bit more peace in our world. You may also find yourself becoming a stronger and more effective individual as you develop and ability to think with another.
Thank you for reading.
Bye for now.
RCS
Tuesday, January 17, 2023
Get Familiar With Some Benefits of the Dialogue Group Practice,
Benefits include:
rcs
Friday, January 13, 2023
A Reminder About This Different Kind of Dialogue.
RCS Posts dialogue including: A bit of a definition of our usefully different kind of dialogue.
I write about a new kind of dialogue. It is mostly for groups of as small as 9 to groups of about 39.
Below are some descriptive notes about what is, and what it is not. See other posts on the benefits of this more productive and satisfying way to communicate. It can work wonders with your husband and has been successful in some very large groups.
Our dialogue practice is not a:
~ place to make a particular point prevail.
~ debate or even a discussion.
~ time to attempt to make points.
~ game to win or lose.
This new dialogue practice is a way to:
~ meaning and understanding.
~ an activity which helps us to be us.
~ through the meaning of word.
~ an honest, supportive activity.
~ greater awareness and enhanced consciousness.
~ hone your listening skills.
~ develop new speaking skills.
~ effective methods of communication.
~ cultural preservation and creation.
~ make a healthy, effective society more probable.
~ meet interested people in an interesting environment.
~ put honest thoughts "on the table" where we can look at them and begin to find their meaning.
~ be heard.
~ find pleasure in speaking-up.
~ understanding among us and within us.
~ satisfying relationship.
~ exchange idea and opinion more safely.
~ share experience.
~ more effective communication beyond the group.
~ practice a "second" language.
~ peace and good will.
~ to see our words as gifts.
According to Dr. David Bohm a similar dialogue practice is:
~ participating in a flow of meaning between us, through us, and among us.
~ an activity out of which emerges new and renewed understanding.
~ an activity which helps us to be an us.
Could you find a way to practice a dialogue of this sort? Could you practice a dialogue more of this sort in your group?
You can open a window below to make a comment, a suggestion, and ask a question. You might have to click on where where "no comment" is printed below.
Thanks for reading.
Now comments are needed.
RCS
Saturday, January 7, 2023
Dialogue Practice One
I am kind of starting in the middle of this dialogue practice stuff because I do not know where the beginning is. Come to think of it, I believe that there is no end to it either. Is there and end to the practice of medicine? Maybe, but so far, when the career of one doctor ends another doctor continues the practice.
The practice of medicine is important. By reading on you may discover that many consider the practice of dialogue more important than that of medicine. The practice of dialogue is certainly serious. It is also interesting and fun.
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Plunging right into a serious part of dialogue practice I can say the following:
After a time of dialoguing we can better understand how a certain opinion or assumption of another participant has come to be held. That's serious isn't it? Have you never thought to yourself, "How can that person have such a belief or opinion!?"
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Dialogues of the kind I have been speaking of Have been called Dialogue For Peace, Magic Table Dialogue, Fair Fighting dialogue, and just plain Dialogue Practice. I have thought of calling it Dialogue For the Creation and Preservation of Culture, but have not done so until just now. This practice has also been call a Listing Practice.
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I have been writing these bits about dialogue as though we were the dialogue practitioners and plan to continue doing so.
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We will bring our assumptions to our dialogue for peace practice group for it is impossible not to bring them. Those assumptions will come up. Our purpose is not to judge them, not to suppress them, not to believe them or to disbelieve them.
Our purpose is not to see them as good or bad. Our purpose is to listen for them, to hear them, to recognize them, and to accept their existence.
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There are lots of rules for good dialogue practice, but not much enforcement of those rules. One may take them as very valuable suggestions.
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The idea in our practice group is not to change anyone's mind.
The aim is try to see what each assumption means. The purpose is to understand the experience which gives a particular assumption it's birth and which supports it
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So we are here coming to see that dialogue practice entails a listening practice of a group of listeners. One person talks for a bit and gets to be well heard. Than another talks and is well heard. We all become better listeners. Some have mistakenly thought that a dialogue practice is only for and between two persons. In our dialogues there are many great listeners who all listen to one person at a time. You can be that person who is well listened to and well heard.
Tuesday, December 27, 2022
Rethinking Governance Together
We may be the best of friends, but it appears that we are too often also our worst enemies.
Thursday, December 8, 2022
About What a Dialogue is Not and More of What It Is About.
Wednesday, December 7, 2022
Beginnning to Practice: The Dialogue Is Easy Enough
Let's say that an important purpose of this dialogue practice group is to practice the use of oral English and skill in the dialogue is secondary.
You can start with people and a place. It's best that the people have some knowledge of what The Dialogue is about and some interest in the practice. It's best that the place be neutral and fairly free of interruption.
Once the the people are in the place they aught to know that they need to form a neat circle of chairs, with a chair for each person. The circle is important and should be close to forming a true circle.
Before being seated they need to prepare by having a table, a basket, a stick, scissors, paper and pens or paper. The table need not be very large. The basket can be a bit smaller than a basketball and is best that it have a cover. Should be smooth and comfortable to hold and be big enough for all to see. The scissors is used to cut the paper in to pieces of equal sizes and which are large enough to have a good size English word clearly written on them. It's best that the paper pieces be cut so as to form a square.
People help each other to write one word which interests them at the moment on one piece of paper. After a word is written on a paper, that paper is folded twice and placed in the basket.
All this done the participants take a seat in their nicely formed circle. It's best the the chairs of that circle be of nearly equal size and nature. It's best if the number of participants be between about 16 and 39. A pilot group of participants may be of as few as seven persons. Forty persons is usually too many for an effective practice group. If more than forty interested persons are interested in the practice, a new group should be formed. It is best that the new group include at least three participants of the original group.
For this session this practice is closed for the duration of this practice.
Participants in the group may include native English speakers. It may also include persons with practical no experience with the the language, but believe themselves so interested in the language that they intend to attend practices weekly for many months. A wide variety of participants is usually and aid to the effectiveness of the practice group.
We are now just about ready to begin a practice. The persons with the least ability with the language should be given a bit of practice say "My name is ___________ . whatever name she {0r he| chooses to use and also to practice saying "I pass." All are ready, willing, and able to begin the practice.
Then basket of words is in the hands of a participant. It is shaken for luck and fairness and is opened to person to the left who takes out one paper and gives it to the person on his left. That person is holding the talking stick. He takes the paper and is able to read the word. All are ready to listen to him. He says, "My name is __________" and "The word is ________." several participants recognize the word. He says "I pass" and passes the talking stick and the word to the next person.
All listen, ready to hear, and perhaps, to understand.
There is more to hear for those are ready to read more.